Novelist and Screenwriter Nora Ephron grew up at a time when, "our education was a dress rehearsal for a life we never led." Isn't that the saddest line? We weren't meant to have futures, we were meant to marry them. We weren't meant to have careers that mattered, or opinions, or lives; we were meant to marry them. If you wanted to be an architect, you married an architect.
Nora used to play a game with friends where each woman wrote on a napkin the five words that best described her at that point in her life. She was surprised to discover that every ten years, the words she chose changed.
She was also surprised that it took her to later in life to include the word HAPPY in her list.
Nora Ephron, who passed away June 2012, once said, "Embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. It will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. And don't be frightened: you can always change your mind. I know: I've had four careers and three husbands...you are not going to be you, fixed and immutable you, forever."
Ephron said, "Whatever those five things are for you today, they won't make the list in ten years--not that you still won't be some of those things, but they won't be the five most important things about you."
We do change. And grow. This ability to shift and re-define she called, "one of the most delicious things available to women."http://www.mindingthecampus.com/originals/2012/06/nora_ephrons_commencem...
If you could stamp five words on charms, like whispers or reminders of your intention, what would they be?
Would HAPPY make the list?